Why do some people cope better than others? There are a myriad number of reasons, with one being self-regulation. People who cope better do so as they know how to self-regulate. That is, they know when to apply various strategies, they know when to hold out distractions, they know about their thinking skills, and they know how to self-evaluate.
We have so much to learn from the recent home learning experience. One of the areas we are reflecting on as a College is what went well during COVID. We are collating and sharing all the excellent examples of learning away from school, and asking how we could introduce them into the regular school day – and give up some of the ‘old schooling’ and move to the ‘new schooling’.
One of the tenets of Polaris is we want each young man to persevere, to have the confidence to take on the unknown, to take intellectual risks and learn from failures. The most fundamental thing we know is we want our young men to be critical and reflective, open to a lifetime of learning, who are comfortable with change, have high levels of empathy and a broad global perspective.
I have a daughter currently studying at university. The classes she attends have large numbers of students, her lectures video-d, much of what she does is via distance learning, and there is high dependence on her being self-regulated. Research points to the power of success for students who know how to learn in classes of 200+, who learn alone or with friends more than with teachers, all have higher levels of self-regulation.
The benefits of self-regulation are numerous. In general, people who are adept at self-regulating tend to possess the following abilities:
- Acting in accordance with their values
- Calming themselves when upset
- Cheering themselves when feeling down
- Maintaining open communication
- Persisting through difficult times
- Putting forth their best effort
- Remaining flexible and adapting to situations
- Seeing the good in others
- Staying clear about their intentions
- Taking control of situations when necessary
- Viewing challenges as opportunities
Please read next week's Eagle article which will have strategies for all on how to build such skills.